Because my daughters are just 17 months apart, they "share" a lot of the same friends. That means they both get invited to the same parties.
Just this year, Ann Catherine starting getting invited to parties without Lily. Lily didn't know the difference so it didn't matter. But, Lily has never been invited to a party without Ann Catherine.
When I told Ann Catherine earlier in the week that Lily was going to a friend's birthday party, AC said, "But what about me?"
I explained that she wasn't invited, just as Lily wasn't invited to the party that Ann Catherine went to on Wednesday.
Ann Catherine knows there's a party with cake, games and toys and she's not part of it.
"But what about me?" she has asked at least a thousand times this week. "You're not invited," I would answer, and remind her of the parties she attended that Lily wasn't invited to.
"But I want to go!" was always her answer.
Chris had to come up with some pretty cool daddy/daughter fun today, I can promise you that.
As for Lily, she looked like such a big girl going to her party today!
But something interesting happened when we got there. Lily grabbed onto my leg and wouldn't go play with her friends (these were all friends that she knows from daycare, mind you). I couldn't figure it out. AC is usually my shy one when we are around others, not Lily. Lily is gregarious, fun-loving, the life of the party.
Then, I figured it out. AC wasn't there. Lily doesn't know life without Ann Catherine. They go everywhere together. And AC is somewhat of a crutch for her. If Ann Catherine is around, she has confidence and just jumps into a situation. Without her, not so much.
It was interesting seeing this other side of my daughter. Eventually, she warmed up and played, but she never really wanted me out of her sight. If Ann Catherine had been there, I'm pretty sure it would have been different.
I always say Ann Catherine needed Lily so badly when she was born, but I realized something today.
Lily needs her, too.